When I was in high school, I went on a History Tour of the church I belonged to at the time. I am no longer part of this church but the experience was fun. It included long bus rides crossing the US from Utah to New York and back. I paid for it myself, with the money I had saved from my part time job I had.

One day we were playing a card game on the bus and I was getting creamed. The longer we played, the worse it got. I am not sure if I figured it out at all without help. Later I was talking to my best friend at the time, who also went on the trip and she told me that ‘everyone was cheating.’ She said it in kind of a quiet, but matter of fact way. I said something like, ‘I can’t believe they would do that to us!’ She then broke the news to me, ‘Bobbie. I was cheating too. Everyone was cheating in that game.’ It was a shock to me. We were literally on a Jesus tour.

Looking back on the game I could see the signs, the card trading. The fact that I was losing at a crazy rate. I was so focused on my one game, I didn’t pay attention. Plus, it really would not occur to me that people would cheat. This is something to be observant of and never assume someone you think has good morals is not also capable of lying. People may lie in their own favor and also to justify strong beliefs.

I have been reflecting on that experience lately. Not a lot has changed. I still am shocked when I find out everyone in the game is lying. There is a saying, ‘All is Fair in Love and War.’ I didn’t even wink at all when I heard that saying a few years ago. Now I really understand.

Some people will do anything to get what they want.